i was in eighth standard then. my youngest maasi was getting married , n she was visiting us for a while for some jewellery shopping. ma n maasi were sitting in the garden one evening and i had gone to give them tea. they were discussing something earnestly. so they didn’t notice me . i heard the whole conversation but this post is not about their tête-à-tête.
its about these lines that made a lifelong impact on me– “ never get married to a man whom you love , always the man who loves you. coz i think the woman learns to love over the time , it is a little difficult for the man . he either loves or doesn’t , there are seldom any maybes or sometimes “.
i have remembered these lines all my life. over the years many people have told me this (albeit with some different explanation /reason ) and i in return have passed these “pearls of wisdom” dutifully to lovesick friends. even had those late-night-to-dawn hostel room discussions on whys n hows behind this sentence. but i have always been satisfied by my mother’s reasoning.
may be this the mantra to marital happiness for women. not very honest one, but a successful one for sure.
** and pls people, don’t jump to conclusions , it is not about my marriage.in any case both of us thought we were smarter and were marrying the person who loves us. both of us think that we were duped. we have many contradictory theory on who proposed. the confusion has continued for last many years, n i don’t think it is getting solved anytime sooner.
and we hopefully will live happily forever in this confusion. touchwood.
¶ 2:31 PM 
and those wordst...that's something i might partly agree with!
: 6:03 PMnice post... mebbe true... mebbe not. can never bring myself to make one of those "absolute classifications"
: 11:07 PMpixel8 partly agree maane ...that you should not marry the man you love.also not marry the man who loves you. or you have something else in mind :P
amitL awww thanks ..you are the sweetest.
But seriously, I think it's a great piece of advice and we also really believed in it after all night hostel talks on the subject.
By the way, the id is anumitasingha@mail.com. Send me the recipe when you get time. I don't trust googled recipes, only tried and tested realistic ones.
manish ya sure ADVICE FOR MEN - women are the smart ones, jus follow them . ;P
juss kidding ..first time here na .welcome n hope to see you arnd often .
: 4:46 PMaqua good to see you back pal ...but you know i seriously believe that love makes everything work; it does. best marriages are when both are in love, it is so uncomplicated then..
this concept is when one of the 2 people are not in love ; i say it (or rather my mom said it once) shud be the girl , not the boy -for the marriage to work... thats all
: 1:20 AMo well...don't mind me...i'm in that sorta mood...:)
here's to the confusion! may it prevail! :)
GRATISGAB well jokes ( & confusion )apart i really believe... "A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person." AND this is the funda ..
i really hope that whatever was bothering you is over n done with.you take care.
: 9:45 PMwell didnt get time to write it down for you . will tomorrow, promise.
alpha they are doin very well , thnk you for asking :-|
sweety thanks. thats very sweet of you ; but did i sound worried , huh ? about what ?
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